xfs: refactor xfs_bmap_add_extent_delay_real

Use xfs_iext_get_extent to find, and xfs_iext_update_extent to update
entries in the in-core extent list.  This isolates the function from
the detailed layout of the extent list, and generally makes the code
a lot more readable.
Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Brian Foster <bfoster@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <darrick.wong@oracle.com>