Part of MDEV-5336 Implement LOCK FOR BACKUP

The idea is that instead of waiting in close_cached_tables() for all
tables to be closed, we instead call flush_tables() that does:
- Flush not used objects in table cache to free memory
- Collect all tables that are open
- Call HA_EXTRA_FLUSH on the objects, to get them into "closed state"
- Added HA_EXTRA_FLUSH support to archive and CSV
- Added multi-user protection to HA_EXTRA_FLUSH in MyISAM and Aria

The benefit compared to old code is:
- FTWRL doesn't have to wait for long running read operations or
  open HANDLER's