MDEV-21953 deadlock between BACKUP STAGE BLOCK_COMMIT and parallel
replication

Fixed by partly reverting MDEV-21953 to put back MDL_BACKUP_COMMIT locking
before log_and_order.

The original problem for MDEV-21953 was that while a thread was waiting in
for another threads to commit in 'log_and_order', it had the
MDL_BACKUP_COMMIT lock. The backup thread was waiting to get the
MDL_BACKUP_WAIT_COMMIT lock, which blocks all new MDL_BACKUP_COMMIT locks.
This causes a deadlock as the waited-for thread can never get past the
MDL_BACKUP_COMMIT lock in ha_commit_trans.

The main part of the bug fix is to release the MDL_BACKUP_COMMIT lock while
a thread is waiting for other 'previous' threads to commit. This ensures
that no transactional thread keeps MDL_BACKUP_COMMIT while waiting, which
ensures that there are no deadlocks anymore.