MDEV-13748 Assertion `status_var.local_memory_used == 0 || !debug_assert_on_not_freed_memory' failed in virtual THD::~THD after query with INTERSECT

my_safe_alloca()/my_safe_afree() work as alloca() or malloc()/free()
depending on the memory size to allocate, that is, depending on
reclength here. They only work correctly if reclength doesn't
change in the middle.