MDEV-26217 Failing assertion: list.count > 0 in ut_list_remove or Assertion `lock->trx == this' failed in dberr_t trx_t::drop_table

This follows up the previous fix in
commit c3c53926 (MDEV-26554).

ha_innobase::delete_table(): Work around the insufficient
metadata locking (MDL) during DML operations by acquiring exclusive
InnoDB table locks on all child tables. Previously, this was only
done on TRUNCATE and ALTER.

ibuf_delete_rec(), btr_cur_optimistic_delete(): Do not invoke
lock_update_delete() during change buffer operations.
The revised trx_t::commit(std::vector<pfs_os_file_t>&) will
hold exclusive lock_sys.latch while invoking fil_delete_tablespace(),
which in turn may invoke ibuf_delete_rec().

dict_index_t::has_locking(): A new predicate, replacing the dummy
!dict_table_is_locking_disabled(index->table). Used for skipping lock
operations during ibuf_delete_rec().

trx_t::commit(std::vector<pfs_os_file_t>&): Release the locks
and remove the table from the cache while holding exclusive
lock_sys.latch.

trx_t::commit_in_memory(): Skip release_locks() if dict_operation holds.

trx_t::commit(): Reset dict_operation before invoking commit_in_memory()
via commit_persist().

lock_release_on_drop(): Release locks while lock_sys.latch is
exclusively locked.

lock_table(): Add a parameter for a pointer to the table.
We must not dereference the table before a lock_sys.latch has
been acquired. If the pointer to the table does not match the table
at that point, the table is invalid and DB_DEADLOCK will be returned.

row_ins_foreign_check_on_constraint(): Improve the checks.
Remove a bogus DB_LOCK_WAIT_TIMEOUT return that was needed
before commit c5fd9aa5 (MDEV-25919).

row_upd_check_references_constraints(),
wsrep_row_upd_check_foreign_constraints(): Simplify checks.