Initialize abs_timeout when it is about to be used. This saves one my_hrtime()
call on hot path (when we acquire MDL lock without waiting).

When filling I_S.PROCESSLIST use THD::start_utime/THD::utime_after_query instead
of THD::start_time. This allows us to save 2 clock_gettime() calls.

Overhead change:
__clock_gettime   0.13% -> 0.11% (122 -> 76 calls per OLTP RO transaction)
my_interval_timer 0.07% -> 0.06%
my_hrtime         0.04% -> 0.01%