If CONFIG_OF_KOBJ is not set, a device_node does not contain a
kobj and attempts to access the embedded kobj via kref_read break
the compile.

Replace affected kref_read calls with a macro that reads the
refcount if it exists and returns 1 if there is no embedded kobj.
Reported-by: kernel test robot <lkp@intel.com>
Closes: https://lore.kernel.org/oe-kbuild-all/202401291740.VP219WIz-lkp@intel.com/
Fixes: 4dde8356 ("of: Fix double free in of_parse_phandle_with_args_map")
Signed-off-by: Christian A. Ehrhardt <lk@c--e.de>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20240129192556.403271-1-lk@c--e.deSigned-off-by: Rob Herring <robh@kernel.org>