There are various deadlocks that can occur
when a thread holds reconfig_mutex and calls
->quiesce(mddev, 1).
As some write request block waiting for
metadata to be updated (e.g. to record device
failure), and as the md thread updates the metadata
while the reconfig mutex is held, holding the mutex
can stop write requests completing, and this prevents
->quiesce(mddev, 1) from completing.

->quiesce() is now usually called from mddev_suspend(),
and it is always called with reconfig_mutex held.  So
at this time it is safe for the thread to update metadata
without explicitly taking the lock.

So add 2 new flags, one which says the unlocked updates is
allowed, and one which ways it is happening.  Then allow it
while the quiesce completes, and then wait for it to finish.
Reported-and-tested-by: Xiao Ni <xni@redhat.com>
Signed-off-by: NeilBrown <neilb@suse.com>
Signed-off-by: Shaohua Li <shli@fb.com>