We don't want to add too much memory when it's not getting onlined
immediately, to avoid running OOM. Generalize the handling, to avoid
making use of memory block states. Use a threshold of 1 GiB for now.

Properly adjust the offline size when adding/removing memory. As we are
not always protected by a lock when touching the offline size, use an
atomic64_t. We don't care about races (e.g., someone offlining memory
while we are adding more), only about consistent values.

(1 GiB needs a memmap of ~16MiB - which sounds reasonable even for
 setups with little boot memory and (possibly) one virtio-mem device per
 node)

We don't want to retrigger when onlining is caused immediately by our
action (e.g., adding memory which immediately gets onlined), so use a
flag to indicate if the workqueue is active and use that as an
indicator whether to trigger a retry. This will also be especially relevant
for Big Block Mode (BBM), whereby we might re-online memory in case
offlining of another memory block failed.

Cc: "Michael S. Tsirkin" <mst@redhat.com>
Cc: Jason Wang <jasowang@redhat.com>
Cc: Pankaj Gupta <pankaj.gupta.linux@gmail.com>
Signed-off-by: David Hildenbrand <david@redhat.com>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20201112133815.13332-17-david@redhat.comSigned-off-by: Michael S. Tsirkin <mst@redhat.com>